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So, it’s been awhile… lots of news

Posted in Eldercare, Family, Finding a Job, Personal, Prescription Drug Addiction, self-employment on January 13, 2011 by JenDelicious Cupcakes

So I haven’t posted for a while because life has just gotten in the way lately.  There have been lots of changes in our lives recently.

My husband and I spent November with his mother during her last days on earth.  She had been struggling with COPD for the last year and lost her battle on December 1st.  She had been a smoker nearly all her life and in the end it killed her.  It was so sad to see her struggling for breath during the last month.  We were able to get her to hospice about a week before she passed so her final days were relatively pain-free.  We were in the room with her when she passed and my husband was holding her hand.  I’m glad she’s no longer struggling to live but she was a pretty solid rock in my husband’s life and kept him pretty grounded.  He seems to be dealing with her loss much better than I would.

A few weeks after we returned home from settling my mother-in-laws affairs, my brother finally got into a rehab center (just before Christmas).  The whole family was holding out hope that he might make some changes to his life now.  Amazingly, he got into the center on a scholarship.  A day or two after New Years, a little over a week into treatment, he was kicked out because he supposedly purchased alcohol for another client.  Of course, he says he didn’t do anything but he lies SO much and about everything, it’s really hard to know if this is the truth or not.  My gut says it’s another lie because there are a lot of inconsistencies in his story and I doubt that he’d have been kicked out of the program if they didn’t have a solid reason to think he made that purchase.  Besides, I think he only went to rehab just to make my mom and dad happy and to say he tried.

He’s been asking for money to keep his wife out of jail because she owes tons from her probation agreement and then he started asking for money to pay for a hotel since he only has a car to sleep in.  It’s so very hard to say no to him but we’ve put out SO much money over the last three years and seen absolutely no improvement in his situation.  I told him he needed to go to a cold weather shelter because we were done with supporting him.

He and his wife do NOTHING to fix the situation they find themselves in and we are so tired of all of it.  Sometimes, I wish we had never moved back here.  I just wish I could do something to help their son but they use him to play on everyone’s sympathy.  I just don’t want to see that sweet little boy grow up just like his dad.  My brother had a strike against him genetically because my father was an alcoholic and now my brother is addicted to both drugs and alcohol.  My brother’s son has two strikes against him and it will take an act of God to keep that little boy out of the same pattern.

On a good note, I finally landed a job and will be starting with a local company next Wednesday!  Yeah!!  I’m quite nervous about it since it’s something I haven’t done in quite a while.  I know I’m capable of doing the work… just have to dust off the cobwebs in my brain!  I would love to start my own business someday but I still need to figure out exactly what I want to do when I grow up.  Not to mention, I have to figure out if I have what it takes to be a successful business owner.

I am still plugging away at my degree program.  If all goes well, I should be done by August or September this year.  So, 2010 went out on a very sad note and was a tough year all around but 2011 seems to be starting on a relatively positive note … at least for me personally.  Let’s just hope it continues!

Off topic… prescription drug addiction killing my brother…

Posted in Family, Personal, Prescription Drug Addiction, social security with tags , , on October 8, 2010 by JenDelicious Cupcakes

This is SO far off-topic it’s not even funny but I have to get this off my chest.  I have an early 30 something brother who has a history of drug and alcohol abuse since he was a teen.  His abuse caused a major car accident that nearly killed him a few years ago.  Then more recently his continued abuse caused several heart attack, several ER trips for stent placements, Hepatitis, a double bypass this past February and several more car accidents, one of which totaled the car that I helped pay for so his wife could go to work (another long story).

Since his heart surgery, he’s been on Oxycontin and/or Hydrocodone along with Xanax and some sort of pain patches.  I understood why he needed pain meds in the first couple of months following the surgery but we are 8 months out and he swears he’s in excruciating pain.  His doctors say there is no reason he should be in pain at this point yet they still keep giving him meds.  He’s also learned how to shop different pharmacies to get what he needs and I imagine, but don’t know this for sure, he’s doctor shopping too.  In his mind, all the prescriptions are from doctors so there’s nothing wrong with what he’s doing… he has a prescription.  He totally doesn’t believe that when he takes 10 hydrocodone in a day when his doctor says no more than 2 a day… along with wearing up to 4 pain patches at one time… indicates that he’s got a problem.

He can’t talk clearly, he sounds worse than any drunk I’ve ever known and being in the military… I knew one or two drunk people!  His speech is slurred, he falls out of chairs, puts food in weird places, puts metal in the microwave, falls asleep with food in his mouth, and just does crazy things.  Then he yells when you tell him any of these things.  He thinks he’s fine.  What really concerns me is his 4-year-old son seeing this type of behavior and growing up thinking it’s normal. Fortunately, he only sees his son on weekends since his little boy lives elsewhere during the week.  My brother’s wife and son live with her family since there isn’t room at my parents house for their whole family (which is where my brother is) and my brother is not welcome at her family’s house because of his behavior and refusal to work.

What really makes this frustrating for both sides of the family is that my brother hasn’t worked a day in two years ostensibly because he’s too sick and in too much pain to work.  He’s trying to get social security benefits which really makes me mad.  I wish someone would help him get treatment for these drugs rather than apply for social security benefits.  If you ask me, his social security “lawyer” (or ambulance chaser if you ask me) is just trying to make a buck “helping” him argue for these benefits.  There’s absolutely no reason he can’t work except he hooked on drugs, he’s lazy and he just wants a hand out. The sad thing, his sense of entitlement for these benefits when he’s not a productive member of society is just one symptom of what is wrong with our country today.  He’s like so many other people in this country that think the government should just take care of them and they don’t have to give anything back or do anything productive to earn these benefits.

There’s a whole lot more to the story and I will probably occasionally digress into those stories since the saga rears its ugly head nearly every week!