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So, it’s been awhile… lots of news

Posted in Family, Finding a Job, Personal, Prescription Drug Addiction, self-employment on January 13, 2011 by DelJenLane Enterprises, LLC

So I haven’t posted for a while because life has just gotten in the way lately.  There have been lots of changes in our lives recently.

My husband and I spent November with his mother during her last days on earth.  She had been struggling with COPD for the last year and lost her battle on December 1st.  She had been a smoker nearly all her life and in the end it killed her.  It was so sad to see her struggling for breath during the last month.  We were able to get her to hospice about a week before she passed so her final days were relatively pain-free.  We were in the room with her when she passed and my husband was holding her hand.  I’m glad she’s no longer struggling to live but she was a pretty solid rock in my husband’s life and kept him pretty grounded.  He seems to be dealing with her loss much better than I would.

A few weeks after we returned home from settling my mother-in-laws affairs, my brother finally got into a rehab center (just before Christmas).  The whole family was holding out hope that he might make some changes to his life now.  Amazingly, he got into the center on a scholarship.  A day or two after New Years, a little over a week into treatment, he was kicked out because he supposedly purchased alcohol for another client.  Of course, he says he didn’t do anything but he lies SO much and about everything, it’s really hard to know if this is the truth or not.  My gut says it’s another lie because there are a lot of inconsistencies in his story and I doubt that he’d have been kicked out of the program if they didn’t have a solid reason to think he made that purchase.  Besides, I think he only went to rehab just to make my mom and dad happy and to say he tried.

He’s been asking for money to keep his wife out of jail because she owes tons from her probation agreement and then he started asking for money to pay for a hotel since he only has a car to sleep in.  It’s so very hard to say no to him but we’ve put out SO much money over the last three years and seen absolutely no improvement in his situation.  I told him he needed to go to a cold weather shelter because we were done with supporting him.

He and his wife do NOTHING to fix the situation they find themselves in and we are so tired of all of it.  Sometimes, I wish we had never moved back here.  I just wish I could do something to help their son but they use him to play on everyone’s sympathy.  I just don’t want to see that sweet little boy grow up just like his dad.  My brother had a strike against him genetically because my father was an alcoholic and now my brother is addicted to both drugs and alcohol.  My brother’s son has two strikes against him and it will take an act of God to keep that little boy out of the same pattern.

On a good note, I finally landed a job and will be starting with a local company next Wednesday!  Yeah!!  I’m quite nervous about it since it’s something I haven’t done in quite a while.  I know I’m capable of doing the work… just have to dust off the cobwebs in my brain!  I would love to start my own business someday but I still need to figure out exactly what I want to do when I grow up.  Not to mention, I have to figure out if I have what it takes to be a successful business owner.

I am still plugging away at my degree program.  If all goes well, I should be done by August or September this year.  So, 2010 went out on a very sad note and was a tough year all around but 2011 seems to be starting on a relatively positive note … at least for me personally.  Let’s just hope it continues!

Unemployment… the first week

Posted in Entrepreneur, Family, Finding a Job, Military, Personal, self-employment, unemployment, write a book with tags , , , , , , , , on October 6, 2010 by DelJenLane Enterprises, LLC

Today is the end of the first full week of being unemployed.  I’m not sure how I really feel about being unemployed yet.  Part of me likes spending quality time with my kids and a part of me misses the camaraderie of working with other adults to solve common problems.  In the last week, I’ve revamped my resume more times that I care to admit and I’m not sure it’s any better than it was.  I’ve searched the same job boards over and over trying to figure out what’s out there and what I want to do.  On a positive note, I’ve had a couple of recruiters call me about jobs.   There is one that I would jump on in a heartbeat but there is a big problem with it because it is in another city  and would require us to relocate.  There is NO way we could move right now because we are so far underwater on our home, we’d never be able to sell it for what we owe and foreclosure/short sale is not an option in my profession.  Not to mention my husband would also have to find another job.  He’s a Sharepoint developer so odds are he wouldn’t have a problem but he doesn’t like change and is already pushing back on any discussion of moving.

Over the last week, I haven’t really explored the home-based business idea any further because I just don’t know that I could really make enough money in the near term to make it worthwhile.  I have really been considering writing a book about my family though.  I’d probably have to write it from a fictional perspective just to protect my crazy family and their “sensibilities.”   I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told people the story of my family and they always tell me I have a reality show or a Lifetime movie (or three) in the making!

On the other side of this equation, there are positives to being home.  I’ve started walking my children to and from school and I have the sore muscles to prove it. I’ve had some free time and started exploring photography of the local flora and fauna.  The heron at the top of this file was visiting our pond yesterday morning.  I watched him catch a fish only to have a hawk steal it from him!  I’m still working towards completing my BA in Marketing and have about 9 classes before I finish.  I really enjoy my marketing classes and maybe someday can make money doing that.  This first full week of unemployment has not really helped me figure out what I want to do but it is allowing me to take care of myself a little more, explore things that I’ve never had the time to explore and continue my education without having to rush my studies!  I would say the first week has been much more productive and interesting than I thought it would be.

It Begins

Posted in Entrepreneur, Family, Military, Personal, self-employment with tags , , , , on September 3, 2010 by DelJenLane Enterprises, LLC

So, I’m new to blogging and I’m new to the world of entrepreneurship.  Currently, I have a job… but only for the next 20 something days or so.  I’ve suddenly found myself in a position that I have to decide whether or not I want to continue being a Defense contractor, work for the government in some other capacity or pursue some sort of self-employment.  In order to help me make this decision, I thought a blog might be a helpful way to figure out what I want to be when I grow up – so to speak.

I spent more years than I care to count in the military but for personal reasons I didn’t retire (it’s a very long story that I’ll save for another time).  I don’t regret my service to this country because I gained a lot of experiences that I couldn’t have even begun to imagine when I started that journey.  After I left the military, I moved into Defense contracting which has been filled with its own ups and downs.  I have to say that I’ve been well-compensated for the work I’ve done, but I also have often felt that something is missing.  I also don’t like the fact that at any time my job can disappear and it really doesn’t matter what my performance is like.  Additionally, it’s my own observation that  in general, contractors aren’t treated with much respect even though in many cases we have just as much experience to draw upon as the military and government civilians we work with (still another topic for another time).

Anyway, I’ve had to start over in different career paths several times over the course of the last 20 years but this time it’s different.   I’m in a better position financially and emotionally to make the call whether or not I want to continue on a career path in the Defense industry or find some sort of more meaningful employment.

Now, to the crux of the whole self-employment problem… I have no idea what I want to do.  Over the last twenty years, I’ve worked in communications, computer network administration, operations analysis and planning, instructional delivery and most recently I’ve gained some experience with project management and contracting.

If I had to pick my favorite job, I would say I loved being an instructor.  I really enjoyed teaching adults and seeing the “a-ha” lightbulb go on in people’s heads.  That said, I know teaching children is just not my cup of tea.  I have two small children of my own and have enough trouble helping them with their homework that I know teaching children is definitely not in my cards!

The other problem is that I don’t have a whole lot of real talent at anything in particular.  The military trained me in a lot of different jobs but I’ve never mastered any of them and the ones that I was good at require constant updating.  I’ve been spending a lot of time… and money… buying and reading books to help me figure out where I want to go.  Some books provide better information than others but none have really jumped out at me yet.

So, for tonight, I’ll sign off with the thought that the journey is just beginning. There will be so many different parts of my life and the lives of my family that will be impacted by this trip that I’m sure I will digress from talking purely about the entrepreneurial path but I hope that you will find it interesting nevertheless.